His trial is lonely, but the last time he wrote these letters at our dining table, I went to him on my way to the kitchen. He was crying as his pen moved across the paper.
He returned home safe and sound. The letters were not read. I found them at the bottom of a desk drawer last week as I was packing up our house to move, still sealed, “Don’t open if I don’t leave,” written on them.
It also describes how on Memorial Day in 201
“He was 29,” writes Goldberg. “Trump should have, on this visit, joined John Kelly in paying homage to his son’s grave and comforting the families of the other fallen service members. But according to sources familiar with this visit, Trump stood by the grave of Robert Kelly, approached his father directly and said, “I don’t understand. What did they get? “”
It is a crude question. And the point is missing.
“Serving something higher than you is why most veterans from my point of view, from my experience, join together,” says Kait Wyatt, a Marine Corps veteran whose husband, Cpl. Derek Wyatt, also a marine, died in Afghanistan in 2010.
First Lieutenant Robert Kelly was her husband’s platoon commander. He also commanded retired corporal Sebastian Guadalupe Gallegos.
“They are doing it out of a sense of patriotism. And that patriotism is not loyalty to a specific political or political party, but to America,” explains Gallegos, who lost his arm in an explosion in Afghanistan.
Americans serve to protect their brothers and sisters in arms.
His father, Air Force Colonel Norman Eaton, died in the Vietnam War in 1969, flying on missions to deliver supplies and providing close air support to special forces.
“He was shot down on a stretch of Ho Chi Minh trail just outside Vietnam in Laos,” Eaton explained in a video he posted online criticizing Trump’s remarks on service members, holding his father’s found dog tag. .
“The best men and women in the United States of America are found in the United States Army military. Brave men and women. They are not only brave, they are smart – and they are wise.”
But how does a commander in chief who wraps himself up in images of the military, and is responsible for sending them into danger, not understanding it?
To borrow Trump’s words, what does he get out of it?
Members of the military seem to be on this president’s mind only when they serve a purpose.
In Trump’s case, this is popularity by association.
By comparison, 13% say the same of the press and only 6% have this faith in Congress.
For Trump, the military is a muscle for him to flex, whether it’s to include the National Guard military police in the presence of federal law enforcement who pushed peaceful protesters out of the White House, or to deploy troops on duty. active on the US-Mexico border during an immigration. crisis – although it is constitutionally forbidden to play a useful role there – or an expensive taxpayer-funded 4th of July military parade that featured prominently in political videos broadcast during the Republican National Convention.
When Gold Star families exercise the rights their fallen loved ones have sworn to protect – such as the Khan family, who lost their son Humayun to a suicide bomber in Iraq and spoke out against Trump at the 2016 Democratic convention – the president slanders them.
There, in front of the men, is her husband’s grave.
“You can’t stand on the graves of better men who fought and died for this country while you tear that country apart with your incompetence,” he told CNN.
Those best men and women are ordinary Americans who did an amazing thing: they answered the call. Those who survive often fight for a normal life. They are battling visible and invisible scars simply because, with everything to risk, it is the rare few who have said “send me”.
“What would you risk dying for – and for whom – is perhaps the deepest question a person can ask,” writes war correspondent Sebastian Yunger in “Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging,” an exploration of the challenges facing military personnel. must face when they return from war.
“The vast majority of people in modern society are able to go through their entire lives without ever having to answer this question, which is both a huge blessing and a significant loss.”
For the commander in chief, never really looking for an answer to this question is a shame.
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CNN’s Catherine Valentine contributed to this report.